tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18652219377876927482024-02-18T21:05:59.991-08:00Saving Jane Laplain: Phase 1Get your Double Rainbows while they're hot!!Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-7489212171733009642013-03-23T11:18:00.001-07:002013-03-23T11:18:59.979-07:00I've been Saved!!This blog is retired. Catch up to me at my new blog: http://janelaplain.wordpress.com/ or look me up on facebook! Thanks!Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-44729972268948626062012-11-23T12:12:00.003-08:002012-11-23T12:19:23.761-08:00But I won't be blue always...So my gig has ended. It was a powerful learning experience, particularly the awful way it ended. It taught me many things tho.
I don't have to behave "as if" I'm competent and skilled. I actually really am! And when people comment on that, it's not them just being "nice."
When my perfectionism gets in the way of my judgment, catastrophic mistakes ensue! Not allJane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-61611442609245712122012-08-04T18:32:00.002-07:002012-08-04T18:50:48.406-07:00Misanthrope for Hire!I've been working a temp job for one of my former employers. Completely different department, different campus. Night and day experience. I've only ever loved two jobs before (Being a Bouncer was fun! Being a corporate mole even moreso!), but never as much as all this. Whereas the former assignment with this employer had me in tears at the end of the day, what with the stress of Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-86223527581754953282012-06-12T15:49:00.002-07:002012-06-12T17:10:05.402-07:00Derail ain't just a train to Egypt.... Er... or something.I am so sick of us light-skinned black folks refusing to acknowledge our privilege. I am sick of us light-skinned black folks derailing every discussion of how colorism bestows social advantages upon lighter skinned folks with "Black People always tell me I'm not Black enough! Dark skinned folks have always bullied me cuz I'm light! How is that privilege?Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-79651562344220002182012-06-07T12:06:00.002-07:002012-06-07T12:55:09.267-07:00The Devils You KnowWow. I've been gone so long blogspot has a completely new interface! I think I like it. I'm one of those people who can't stand a crappy interface and will actually stare for hours at the blank compose field because the interface is so distracting. Maybe this will finally make me post more. I'm not going to hold my breath tho.
I've been in a bad head space the last couple of Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-8334450374918486152012-04-15T12:37:00.001-07:002012-04-15T12:41:10.655-07:00Calgon! Took me away!!Well it's been an obnoxiously long time since my last update. Much has transpired in the interim. For starters, I was forced to quit my cushy new job due to sudden and very scary health reasons. These reasons have stabilized and am only now beginning to fathom getting my life back on track.
But I'm starting to think that that track is no longer an option. I've beenJane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-74718603516744003802011-12-31T14:12:00.000-08:002011-12-31T14:17:29.026-08:00My 2011THE GOOD
Received a $10K promotion at my job that enabled me to do some badly needed saving and buying for my family.
Quit my job for another that pays slightly more than the one I just left, allowing me to do more badly needing saving and buying for my family.
Managed to work thru and completely extinguish (i hope!) 3 triggers that had been dogging me. (a) I am no longer Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-67691230248092367892011-10-22T07:02:00.000-07:002011-10-23T16:09:59.746-07:00To be out or not to be out- not even a question!So I just completed the 4th week of my new employment with my new employer and I must say, I am astounded by new discoveries I've made about myself in such a short time. For example, did you know I was socially inept?? Like a huge honking bore?? I had no idea! In my life I've spent at least a solid decade schmoozing and seducing persons for a Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-52806967848025938352011-09-24T12:24:00.000-07:002011-09-24T13:06:35.816-07:00Trans-on-Trans Relationships: Perks and Bennies Galore!I think it's high time I posted something positive on this blog. And I can't think of anything more positive going on in my life than my relationship with Mr. Laplain.
A huge part of what makes me feel so satisfied in our relationship is the fact that we are both trans. Funny how cissexism works; I honestly had never considered this kind of relationship for myself Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-24516255447932391322011-09-20T23:16:00.000-07:002011-09-24T12:38:57.856-07:00"Born As" is Cissexist BS, Rant 2If you missed my first Rant please click here.
Rant 2: Legal Names and Former Legal Names.
Just a bit of background before I begin. Ive been looking for new employment ever since a few weeks after getting a huge promotion at my old job; I had realized that I had been promoted under sketchy circumstances. As the months wore on I became more and more convinced that Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-58473871345090688832011-07-20T06:26:00.000-07:002011-07-20T20:45:20.468-07:00"Born as" is cissexist BS, Rant 1A brief but sincere plea.
People, cis people, trans people, non-trans people of all stripes. PLEASE stop saying "born as" when referring to the name one's parents gave at birth. Even if it's your OWN name.
Saying things like "Jane Laplain, who was born Guy Butcherson Laplain III in the 1970's, now lives in the pacific northwest blah blah" is fundamentallyJane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-14611992203116163532011-07-10T08:38:00.000-07:002011-07-10T16:21:25.720-07:00Making Excuses, Part 2: The Otherside of IntersectionalityDue to declining health, I've been unable to keep up a regular pace with this blog. Alack and Alas.
I've been unable to keep up even an adequate pace with my normal routine, consisting only of going to work, and coming home. Now I'm facing making a big decision about leaving my fabulously well paying job for something far less demanding (and less well paying).
I have Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-41421252334319187452011-06-12T10:10:00.000-07:002011-06-12T17:22:11.044-07:00This week in -ismsFor a while I've been meaning to keep a journal of the isms I encounter on a regular basis. Not the isms that I encounter in media or news blogs or anything, but the everyday casual isms that real life people let fly in meat space. So this week I attempted to make an effort listen for and wrie down the ones I encountered on my way to and from work.
To make it easierJane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-21744580824390430442011-06-05T11:29:00.000-07:002011-06-05T11:33:15.747-07:00fish are jumpinYou'd think I'd have figured these things out by now, but I only just today realized how triggering the summer time is for me. All the extra sunshine, the heat, and the indoors humidity and the fucking houseflies that get in the house and never leave... all this brings me right back kicking and screaming to childhood summers spent in Oklahoma.
And I realize my Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-60885690648258303282011-05-21T08:42:00.000-07:002011-05-21T19:23:37.540-07:00Racism, Co-Racism and why I hate the word prejudiceBy now most people in the anti-oppression blogiverse have heard about the Satoshi Kanazawa Study that black women are "objectively" the least physically attractive of all human beings.
I feel little need to tread ground other better blogfolk have already trod before me (with much more precision than I ever could). Bottomline, Kanazawa's "study" was execrable, and Psychology Today's Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-50261464312165374152011-05-14T01:16:00.000-07:002011-06-25T11:05:36.023-07:00woman shame
I think there's a misconception about trans women that we don't experience body shame as women, except in the sense that we fail to "measure up" to cissexual female phenotypes. Whatever body shame we do have, the thinking goes, surely revolves around the fact that we simply aren't "woman enough" physically and so we spend every waking moment trying to obtain that "woman Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-105878509164841692011-05-08T15:14:00.000-07:002011-05-08T17:13:32.037-07:00Contempt For Trans Men, Much?Okay
This effed up article is proof of why a reframing of mainstream perspectives on transsexuality as a phenomenon is CRUCIAL for the survival of trans people as a community.
Note their cissexist framework from the jump: the characterization of "transmen" as biological females and cis women/girls as "typical girls" , how young CAFAB children who are Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-28065393113097376392011-05-07T15:49:00.000-07:002011-05-07T16:36:25.009-07:00You need to read thisThis blog just changed my life today, I think.
This article at the wonderful Leaving Evidence, explains the concept of access intimacy .
I'm a bit shaken up because when I apply the concept to my own life, I clearly see how lacking my life is in ALL forms of intimacy, not just this one. But access intimacy is something I've certainly experienced in many ways myself and never had a name Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-4246903622412340272011-05-01T11:06:00.000-07:002011-05-01T12:40:29.043-07:00Getting Real: Being Trans vs Having Trans ExperiencesLately I've been re-evaluating my concepts of "trans identity."
I just read a post on the excellent blog Critique Of Popular Reason, about the use of trans and cis as adjectives rather than prefixes, which has sort of guilted me into cleaning up my use of the terms and being more meaningful in what I intend to convey when I use them.
I admit I've been haphazardJane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-51814139121502614512011-04-23T18:17:00.000-07:002011-04-23T19:33:57.895-07:00Throwing my hat in the ring on:I've been following the latest story making the rounds about the trans woman who was severely beaten by two cis teenage girls at McDonald's..
I really ought to stay out of the commentary on this one. For me the wounds are still raw when it comes to this particular form of violence. I already regret my comments on one blog.. tho they may not even be approved.
But I didn't wantJane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-65564448924883861792011-04-16T19:55:00.000-07:002011-04-17T20:28:56.653-07:00Wherein I make excuses for my participation in dreadful thingsWARNING: Purely personal ranting and purging ahead.
This isn't really a continuation of my post on privilege, but it does have alot to do with my actual privilege. And alot to do with being lucky as hell with no small amount of skill at manipulating others.
At the beginning of this year I was in a dead panic about my employment situation. I had just found out that my company Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-21550076870959382642011-03-27T10:55:00.000-07:002011-04-09T17:14:59.886-07:00mr laplaini asked u 2 shave ur beard becuz i was on youtube all day
and daydreaming i was sarah and ella and
then i saw mel torme and thought how much
he reminded me of u when u shave
when he was a tiny young man
not at all a handsome man
but he was
"the velvet fog"
and beloved
i know u say ur eyes are green
but they aren't and i'm sorry
but how many hours
have u spent staring into ur Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-1757774142980660232011-03-13T14:09:00.000-07:002011-03-13T14:23:47.775-07:00Drat!I totally missed an opportunity to be interviewed for an international feminist project. All because I've been forgetting to check one of my eleventythousand email addys.
Back in January, apparently, Jessica Yee of Feminists With Disabilities tried to contact me!
An excerpt:
....
"I am currently writing a book called "Feminism FOR REAL - Deconstructing the Academic Industrial Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-44769627197607299502011-03-12T16:55:00.000-08:002011-03-12T17:15:24.106-08:00To tweet or not to tweet... what was the question?This week I've been dragged kicking and screaming into 21st century social networking. I now have a twitter account.
http://twitter.com/#!/janelaplain
If I can ever figure out how to add that button to the layout to take you there automatically, I will.
I can't promise to twitter all that often or ever. But I do understand it's become quite a formidable news source, so I plan to use it Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1865221937787692748.post-91680438694324034792011-03-12T12:59:00.000-08:002011-03-13T09:11:23.899-07:00My Body, My Privilege (part 1)
This is an extremely difficult post for me.
It's a post I've been meaning to do since I began the blog and have been putting off. A post wherein I acknowledge the privileges that have been attached to my body, as well as the stigmas.
MY BODY is such a complicated topic for me. Thru out what seems the entirety of my life, I've felt detached from it and Jane Laplainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679382711142268177noreply@blogger.com0